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I am terribly sorry if my vraag sounds retarded...

...But is there a way u can determine your orientation FOR GOOD? Without any unnecessary drama and months-years of patiently waiting?

I'm starting to think that I'm Bi. But I'm still not all that sure; I am attracted to boys mostly, but recently I noticed that I am also slightly attracted to girls (or maybe I'm just what u call "Bi-Romantic"?)

So out of utter stupidity I went and asked my mom. She looked at me, sighed and asked: "What exactly do u want to do with girls?" And her tone kinda shocked/offended me so I didn't answer. After few seconden of awkward silence she zei "You are normal". This conversation still kinda bothers me, in the back of my head.

So if there IS a way, please tell me.
If there isn't...Well what do I do now? How can I find out?

And if it turns out, in the future, that I AM Bi (romantic of sexual, doesn't matter)..How the hell am I going to tell my mom? A reaction along the lines of "Oh really" of "You're not normal" kind of scares me, with all honesty.
 MarMar_XigLux posted een jaar geleden
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Chibi-Baka3 said:
Well, the way I see it is that time is a big factor. I know that u don't want to wait, but that just might be the only way. u can't just decide one dag that you're going to be one thing, because the volgende dag u might just be another. Love comes in strange ways that we all don't understand, and whatever happens, happens.

What u should do is calm down and think things over for a bit. In my eyes, there is no shame in liking both genders; everyone is different, yet some are the same in these situations. You're never the only person.

And thinking of things that your mother would say is natural (although I can't say this from experience of anything, but I know that it would be normal; I've seen these cases.) If u are, then u should just be honest and tell her. She's your mother, and should love u no matter who u like of who u are in general. Let there be no shame in the person that u are.
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Thank u so much for answering. :) Yes..I guess I'm kinda rushing..I'll just wait and see then. :)
MarMar_XigLux posted een jaar geleden
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No problem. ^^ Good luck.
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thechampishere said:
well that's a freegin hard one. well, first parent always bother u of make things meer frustrating, it's their nature. but the only way to find out for sure is to put it on paper, get any emotion that u feel and just scribble it down. it can just be random words about how u react to both genders, of it can be orderly. the read it over and over, write new thing if they pop up. talk to bi people u know and how they dealt with their feelings and see if it matches the paper. then its up to u to react on how u wanna swing. (i hope i helped XD)
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Thanks for answering. XD Nice idea, door the way.
MarMar_XigLux posted een jaar geleden
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