Annoying Guy

So there's this guy who I used to be vrienden with but he became way too clingy LITERALLY! So I stopped talking to him and he kept trying to get my attention but he soon gave up. Now he's all over my best vrienden and I want him to leave them alone. How can I tell him to leave them alone without making my vrienden mad at me and not making him refuse to listen to me?
 CREDDIECHANNY posted een jaar geleden
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Chibi-Baka3 said:
Yeah... Not too fun when someone migrates over to your vrienden instead, eh?

I have that sort of problem, except this guy isn't annoying and he wasn't bothering me; it's my friend's ex, and he won't get away from her. Just being around him makes her feel bad, of maybe I should say "worse" since she has some depression.
All in all, I understand how you're feeling and I go through things like that too.

I can understand that u want him to leave your best vrienden be, but I think that's meer of their decision. I say that because of two things: first off, if they don't mind him being around them, then that's fine. Second, when u put down "making my vrienden mad at me", it makes me think that they actually enjoy their company. If this is the case, then I don't believe u should interfere. If this isn't, I still think that u should talk to your vrienden about this little "problem" and see what u come up with. This doesn't mean "devise some plan" to ruin his life, embarrass him, etc. I mean actually sit down and talk about it, and then communicate with him and tell him how u all feel.

Let's say that your vrienden want to be around this guy. Seeing as u don't like him so much, I think that u should talk to your vrienden and work something out. For an example, maybe they could hang out with him at a time where you're not around, so that u don't feel so annoyed. If this still doesn't work out for you, think to yourself that he's at least not bothering you. And that he's not doing anything mean to your friends.

We'll go for another scenario here for the heck of it: let's say that your vrienden got together and talked about it. u all go and talk to this guy, but he still doesn't leave u alone. What do u do? I would suggest doing the same as u did: just ignoring him. I wouldn't suggest anything like "getting even" with him; no one needs to stoop down to any levels. Deal with situations maturely and calmly, and remember to be patient. Let not a single person yell, complain, whine, etc. It sounds like something a parent would say, but it really does make things worse if u do so.

Good luck to you, and feel free to ask any other vragen that u may have.
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