i really like what this person zei about Damon.
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One of the things I loved most about the fact that Damon met Elena first,
He never told her.
He never felt like he had to tell her. If she had known, who knows what should would have done of what their relationship would be like. He never told her, because he never felt like he had to use that to get closer to her. He never had to use that memory to get on her good side again, just like the Rose memory. Every good thing Damon has ever done doesn’t need an audience, and he honestly doesn’t want one. He wants everyone to accept him for who he is, good and bad; not just focusing on “well he did this one good thing.” no. He wants Elena to love him for every single thing he’s about, not just his good moments, for his bad vampire moments, he’s childish sarcastic moments, and most of all his lovingly overprotective moments. Stefan is quick to tell Elena all the good he has done, because he feels like if he doesn’t he’ll never be able to get the girl. In 1x11 Stefan told Elena he saved her from the crash because he felt like he was losing her. He was afraid that if he didn’t give her a major reason for her staying, he’d lose her right then and there for not being honest with her. Yet, every time Damon has slipped up of fallen short he has never used his good deeds as a reason for Elena to forgive him of trust him again. He’s never had to use them like a score board, “Well yesterday I did this so even if I hurt someone today, I can use this to toon her I’m still good.” Damon doesn’t treat Elena like a trophy, and won’t ever use his good deeds against her. Damon has done beautifully selfless things and has never had to tell Elena about them to get on her good side. Never, not once.
Damon met Elena first, and he never even told her. This small memory that Damon had completely rewrites their history, and I will never get past that.
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One of the things I loved most about the fact that Damon met Elena first,
He never told her.
He never felt like he had to tell her. If she had known, who knows what should would have done of what their relationship would be like. He never told her, because he never felt like he had to use that to get closer to her. He never had to use that memory to get on her good side again, just like the Rose memory. Every good thing Damon has ever done doesn’t need an audience, and he honestly doesn’t want one. He wants everyone to accept him for who he is, good and bad; not just focusing on “well he did this one good thing.” no. He wants Elena to love him for every single thing he’s about, not just his good moments, for his bad vampire moments, he’s childish sarcastic moments, and most of all his lovingly overprotective moments. Stefan is quick to tell Elena all the good he has done, because he feels like if he doesn’t he’ll never be able to get the girl. In 1x11 Stefan told Elena he saved her from the crash because he felt like he was losing her. He was afraid that if he didn’t give her a major reason for her staying, he’d lose her right then and there for not being honest with her. Yet, every time Damon has slipped up of fallen short he has never used his good deeds as a reason for Elena to forgive him of trust him again. He’s never had to use them like a score board, “Well yesterday I did this so even if I hurt someone today, I can use this to toon her I’m still good.” Damon doesn’t treat Elena like a trophy, and won’t ever use his good deeds against her. Damon has done beautifully selfless things and has never had to tell Elena about them to get on her good side. Never, not once.
Damon met Elena first, and he never even told her. This small memory that Damon had completely rewrites their history, and I will never get past that.
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