Serious problem. Please answer!

Okay, so I tried getting advice from my friend, Hadar(DandC4evacute), but she's offline now. So I'm turning to u Randoms.

Here's my problem:

My mom and grandma zei that they don't think I'm really bi, but I known for a while that I am. At least, some things that I'd never thought about makes sense. Such as, I was kissed on the cheek door a girl before and liked it. Plus I had crushes on tons of boys. My mom thinks its my medical condition that's making me think I'm bisexual, but I know it''s not.

How do I convince them that I'm truly bisexual?
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jester616 said:
Are u really concerned about whether your mom and grandma will continue to accept and love u if u are indeed bi? I'm asking this because that's kind of the sense I'm getting from your explanation.

Your family may initially be in denial, especially as you've mentioned that you've had many crushes on boys. Their reaction could be the dreaded "this is just a phase," of as u wrote, a side-effect of whatever your medical condition is.

Are they generally supportive of LGBT people? If they are, that's definitely a plus for you. There's no one sure-fire way to broach this topic, but u could bring up that u know that your attraction to both boys and girls is genuine, that u feel the same rush for an attractive (to you) girl as u do for a boy. Do u feel comfortable introducing your girlfriend? If u think that would be too big of a step right now, then hold off. Take things in stages.

If your family is not supportive, because of religious beliefs, of general discomfort, then, no-brainer, it will be meer difficult. Are u able to have discussions about sensitive topics with your family? Do they take your point of view seriously, of do they dismiss your opinion because of your age? If u are able to talk with them, this won't be one big discussion, but a series of them in which u can respectfully get their point of view and also express yours.

In the best possible case, your family will accept u as u are. There is no formula to convince them, but keep talking, and good luck.
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roxifoxi1000 said:
O.O......WELL, I DONT ACTUALLY SUPPORT GAY PEOPLE BUT.........WELLLL...JUST WHO CARES IF THEY NEED TO KNOW. SO u WERE KISSED door A GIRL IN THE CHEEK AND U LIKED IT.......WELL JUST LET THEM THING u ARE NORMAL, BESIDES, U NEVER HAD A CRUSH ON A GIRL ANYWAY, AND PEOPLE THIS DAYS ENOUGH IS BEING DONE TO SUPPORT GAY PEOPLE :O. SO JUST GO TO THEM AND SAY: "MOM, I THINK AM BI. DONT TAKE IT TO HARSH OKAY? I JUST NEEDED TO TELL U THIS SO IN THE FUTURE U DONT GO MAD" AND IF SHE DONT BELIVE, TEN WHO CARESIS THER PROBLEM. AND TRUST ME, u ARE LUCKY AM NOT THE ANTI-GAY CHRISTIAN :O
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Christains aren't anti-gay.
TotalDramaDoll6 posted een jaar geleden
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I'm Christian too, and I have a girlfriend.
LeaM-1 posted een jaar geleden
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She thinks it's my medical condition that's making me say I'm bisexual.
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egyptprincess7 said:
I'm sorry in advance if I'm not helpful.

But,maybe u can toon them your girlfriend? Tell them that u truly love her from the bottom of your heart,it might work.


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Problem. My girlfriend lives in Philedelphia.
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Keith_R_Harkin said:
Wellll.....


My gf is bi.

Perhaps u could introduce them to your gf? and sit down with your Gf, your mom and grandma, and explain your feeelings?
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My gf lives in Philedelphia.
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@lea, AHhhhh that might be a problem. Well, get her phone number of skype. of somethin
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do it anyway
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Edvine2 said:
toon them a 1 picture each of a male couple and female couple, then explain how u feel about both.
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Okay.
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Panda-Hero said:
I AM IN THE SAME FUCKING SITUATION AFTER I TOLD ME MOM I'M BI SHE DIDN;T BELIEVE ME AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO CONVINCE HER I AM GBDSFKJDJNNHKLG;'FJK
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Wow.
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@Panda, wow, e_e'
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seffro said:
Look at it this way
Your parents:
care for u till around 18
Say they love you
Kiss u good night
They try to teach u wrong and right
Make u strive for your best
They punish you
They discourage unfavorable (to them) behavior

Your potential love:
Cares for u from when u meet till death (18-60+)
Say the love you
kiss u with tongue goodnight
Teach u to be naughty at home pagina and nice in public
Do your best and get a reward
Only punishment is make up sex
Encourage all behavior and lets u do things they don't like anyways
Did I mention sex?

Which seems better to u door comparison?

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 Look at it this way Your parents: care for u till around 18 Say they love u Kiss u good night They try to teach u wrong and right Make u strive for your best They punish u They discourage unfavorable (to them) behavior Your potential love: Cares for u from when u meet till death (18-60+) Say the love u kiss u with tongue goodnight Teach u to be naughty at home pagina and nice in public Do your best and get a reward Only punishment is make up sex Encourage all behavior and lets u do things they don't like anyways Did I mention sex? Which seems better to u door comparison?
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I don't quite agree with your theory about your parents... My father would be heart-thorn if I were to die, no matter how old I am. There's noone who loves me meer than my father.
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Nos_DragonFly said:
This video might help u with you're cause :p
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Good Luck .
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Bond_Of_Fury said:
If u think you're bisexual, then u probably are. It's a shame, but there are parents that find it hard to accept that their children are something else than heterosexual. It doesn't have to mean that they're against homosexuality of bisexuality, but it may just need a while to make them get used to it.

What I'd do is to let it rest for a while.

EDIT: Ah, I read through a couple of answers, and I noticed your family is Christian. It's true that Christianinty isn't really anti-homosexual, but it is zei in the bible that peolpe should procreate, and that's impossible with people who are homosexual. Sadly, people tend to see bisexuality as homosexuality. It's probably difficult for your mother to accept that you're bi. Try to give it some time.
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