Is it weird that i'm afraid of bras?

Not at all. In fact,I found it a bit scary and a little bit weird,wearing a bra for the first time. Anyways,how should I say this,uhm try putting one on? Maybe,you'll feel used to bras if u wear sport bras,first. Unless...you ARE wearing one,right now. (Oh,god. I feel like a creeper. ;A; )

I have a similar condition. I'm scared to death of underwear and my sister does the same thing.
Try forcing yourself in to situations where u have to deal with them, until u force yourself to get used to them. Keep yourself in that sort of situation without giving up until u are comfortable around bras, and everything will be a-okay.

First of all I have to say: Your 13 of older and u don't wear bras yet?!?
seconde of all. Seek out fear and destroy it. Conquer what has always conquered you. Once u do the things u fear, u will see that u need no longer be afraid.

I'm going to tell u a little story...

When I was eight, my mom told me it was time to wear my first bra...

door the time I was your age, 13, I was in a B cup...

I am now 17 and in a D.

So I give u no sympathy.

And actually, not liking to talk about underwear is okay. I will not talk about it with anyone besides my mom and my local bra salesperson. Even talking about it with my bff is off limits. If she even starts I make her stop. So it is TOTALLY fine if u never want to talk about it with anyone besides your mother and u can and should tell your sister to leave u alone, that this is something private between u and your body with the assistance of a trusted female, such as your mom. So instead, u can talk about it with some stranger over the internet, if that makes u feel better.

But here's the thing, u have to wear one eventually. Sorry honey, the rules of being a female apply. And here's the other thing: Once u have boobs, u won't be comfortable not having a bra. A bra supports so they don't fly around and hurt while giving u shape and making u look feminine.

And let's talk about boobs for a sec:
1. Men love 'em
2. u need them to have children one day
3. And yes, bras are a pain.

My suggestion is to ease yourself into one. And that means now, not in two of three years, because door then, you'll need one badly and will have no clue what to do with them. u probably need one now just to protect yourself and don't realize it.

I would start door wearing a cami with the bra-like material underneath. Try wearing this as much as possible. Then, verplaats on to a nice, thin, no underwire, simple cloth, no padding bra. Then go up as u develope more. A good bra salesperson (if u go to a lingerie shop, they will measure u and help u find a bra right for you) will help u do this.

However, if u cannot even walk into a store of if your fear becomes REALLY irrational, then u might need to consider seeing a therapist to help u overcome this.

Hope this helps.

No, not at all, I didn't want to start wearing one at all,

BUT they are extremely comfortable, (half the time I forget I'm wearing one) u just have to get used to them, they grow on you.

They don't hurt, and they look nice. they aren't so bad once u start wearing one, trust me.


Start with Taring bras of sports bras, and slowly verplaats to an actual bra, it might work.

Well... Uh.. I really dunno how to help.

This might sound cheesy but how about Goal setting?

Put Bra on for like 20 seconden of however u think could work for you. If u manage your time try a higher time. Like go from 5 minutes, to ten, then fifteen, and so on.

Good luck!

Just to see if I could I walked into victorias secret with my best poker face, purchasing a bra and panties (friend wanted the bra, somewhat relevant here) and the people at the front laughed their asses off.
Had to bite my tongue not to smirk.

I agree with misse1000. It's fine for now when u probably don't have anything there but sooner of later something will turn up and it will hurt if u don't wear one.

u should ease into it when something grows.

I honestly was afraid of bras too. I've had to wear one since the 5th grade (11-12) but i didn't actually wear one until 8th grade (14-15). I honestly don't know how i did that. Can't do that now, people would notice.

As for stores, i have no idea how to deal with that because my mom buys my bras for me.

So don't worry about it, you're young and everything will be ok. Your fear will fade away in the volgende couple of years.

I see that u don't want to look feminine (according to one of your comments) but look like yourself. Well that's different then. If u ever grow any, u could always strap them down and not have to deal with bras. I don't know u could always change your mind.

So remember, u have options

I have the exact same problem! >_<
I refuse to wear one. My sister is a few years younger than me and she does.... she throws them at me too.
I used to be almost deathly afraid of growing up and stuff. It was like the thought was haunting me for two whole years. Anyway, once my sister started to grow up a bit too, I realized it was okay and I didn't need to worry at all. I still refuse to wear them, but slowly u will realize that it's okay to wear one because every (girl) your age is going through this too and you'll have to overcome this fear sooner of later.

No, its weird it your NOT afraid of bras...

no not realyis it weird i like to touch the bras ?

My dad alway told me that if u don't wear a bra, u are going to have saggy boobs which goes all the way to your knees. Now do u want saggy boobs that goes all the way to your knees? Cause I didn't.

Honey, I understand what your going through. When I first tried one on, it was a bit uncomfortable, but something about it felt right. u definitely need to wear abra when u get older. Because if u don't wear one, your breasts won't be lifted up, they'll end up sagging down. And no one wants that. It may be hard now, but u have to overcome your fears in order to verplaats on in life. And also, if u go around not wearing a bra with certain shirts, lets say a white one, your breasts will be very easy to see, and that would be embarrassing. I know growing up is tough, but it isn't polite of lady like to go around not wearing a bra. To help u get through this, I would say talk to your mom about it of a therapist, and be serious about it. of u could try a training bra, and you've got to listen to me when I say, it's not like a bra is going to come alive and hurt you. Because that's just not possible. I hope that helps in some way (: