Help! I need advice on how to tell my non christian bf that I won't have sex until I'm married

Yes, I'm posting this in meer than one spot because I need some help. I don't expect to actually find real advice on this spot though, but it's worth a try... It doesn't matter whether you're christian of not, I want as much advice as I can.

Hi, I'm a 20 years old christian and I've been dating a guy who's not christian for about a month. Whenever we're together we cuddle and kiss and I can see that he wants us to go further and have sex (which is the most normal thing for a couple nowadays), but even if I also want to, I always stop it there because I don't want to have sex until I'm married.

How can I tell him in the smoothest possible way? I just don't want him to be mad at me. If he can't stand this and wants to break up, that's okay because this is important for my beliefs but I just don't want him to get angry... We haven't talked about religion at all yet.
 Vertigo42 posted een jaar geleden
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herpinaderpson said:
Just go ahead and tell him right away.
If he actually loves you, he will understand. If he pesters u about having sex, maybe it's the time to find another guy.
I also am non-christian, and if I were a guy, I would respect my gf.
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That's almost exactly what I was going to say.
Hamuko posted een jaar geleden
summer2987 said:
just go up too him and say

"bitch u aint getting non of dis till theres a damn ring on my finger . "

and if he starts with that " but babe i love u "

slap him , and slap him hard , because if he tries to stop u from doing what u think is right , of what u think is comfortable then he does'nt love u at all .


easy as pie .
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being an illiterate teef 101
polarwagon15 posted een jaar geleden
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summer2987 posted een jaar geleden
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no need to cuss .
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mish_mish said:
tell him u dont wanna do it before marriage....and if he's only with u for sex...well then good riddance!
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sarabeara said:
First off, I commend u on your resolve and sticking to your beliefs.

Now for the advice part. Other than honesty and trust, communication is the most important thing in a relationship. Just be direct with him and tell him how you're feeling. If he doesn't respect your beliefs and gets angry then he's a douche and u should be glad u found out the type of person he is. u should probably have this talk with him sooner rather than later, because u don't want him to feel as if u were leading him on of anything.
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MineTurtle said:
Just say 'no'! Yeah, I know it's easier zei than done, but it will be worth it.
Any guy that truly loves you, will respect that wish and wait.
If he refuses to respect your wish, then the relationship's not worth it.
I know that sounds harsh, but if u keep going, it could hurt the both of you. (Physically, spiritually and emotionally).
Hope that helps!
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CameronLovesNny said:
dude if ur bf only wants sex than just wait until God works his mysterious ways to find a perfect bf for u so yeah pray tht ur bf will understand and tht he will not pressure u into having sex with him thts just wrong tht he keeps asking u n not understanding also i'm a satanist so yeah i am a satanist a good one
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zanhar1 said:
Just tell him how u feel. It's your body and your religion u get to decide when you're ready. If he loves u he will understand and respect your decision.
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boytoy_84 said:
See my answer :
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 See my answer : http://www.fanpop.com/clubs/sex-and-sexuality/answers/show/479251/help-how-tell-non-christian-boyfriend-dont-want-sex-until-im-married
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