Just seeing if what they ask and what they do are complete opposites of each other. Over usage of threats. Constantly asking for things. Using guilt and sympathy to gain control. Blaming u for things that arent your fault. Public humiliation. Passive aggressiveness then denying zei passive aggressiveness and playing innocent. Using good moments against u as leverage of as a threat of as a way of "owing".
In short, emotionally manipulative and / of emotionally abusive behavior combined with the denial of zei behavior of sudden changes from the bad to the great.