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whats your problem?:)

sorry.. okay here's my problem: One of my best friends likes this guy and I've liked him for like 4 years now. Okay well I THINK he mite like me because he always laughs at my jokes, we have a HUGE AMOUNT OF STUFF in common and when there is a whole group of us, he hangs out with me... but he kissed her. and I'm trying to be happy for her but it's hard not to be mad. And I know that even if he does like me.. there is nooo way I could go out with him cause I would be such an aweful freind!! So I have no idea what to do!!!! Can you people give me some advice?

Well, unfortunately the bottom line is, he just likes who he likes. He can't control it, you can't control it...from what you've told me, it seems like he likes you as a friend but likes her as a girlfriend. He kissed her. I understand you can't really be happy for them, but I would try to stay out of it and not act too flirty. Try to enjoy your time with him in the position of a friend, and maybe someday he might fall in love with you. In the meantime, you should move on and look for other people.

Thanks..

does your friend know you like them????

Kinda sorta. She knows that i USED to like him. but she thinks I'm over him. But I'm not. But I didn't have a chance with him to begin with. So oh well :`(

Well... You shouldn't have lied to your friends about loving someone in the first place. But now that u have...
You should do your best to act like you're happy for her and maybe it would be better if you have stayed away from that guy because it would be much easier getting over him.

Oh dear, your problem is hard... maybe that guy doesn't likes you. i'm sorry to say this, but if he kissed her... :(
That doesn't means, of course, you lose your hope. maybe after some time, he starts loving you the way you do. or maybe he likes you, but that I dont know, of course. the problem may not be only your best friend. Yes, you can't flirt with that boy if a friend of yours is interested in him, because that way, you'd lose your friend and that would be far worst. But maybe the problem is really that boy. what if he doesn't loves you? it's not his fault. if he doesn't likes you, you'll have to accept it and try to move on. yes, i know it's hard, but men are hard! especially beautiful men... :(
but for now, stay away from that boy. maybe in the future you'll have a chance with him, but the prsent is what matters now.

Yeah.. I know it's my fault.. but what makes me so frustrated is that they aren't even dating!! I mean if they were dating then I would sooo totally understand, but he just wants to be friends with her. That is what is really getting me...

I think u should talk to ur friend abotu it! See wat she has to say then ask the guy wat is going on! I hope it helps!=)

Thanks

Man, i wish i could help, my girlfriend is so much better than me at this kinda stuff(of course)......but i think shes online right now.....maybe she could help....

Hope im not to late.... but uh...twilightlova13 is right, talk and see what she says....im sorry this happened to u......at least u have sombody to try to help u out....I hope it works out!^__^

I would if i could but thats to hard for me.....

its okay when ever you want too

Well all I can say is you should try and be happy for the person you like and for your friend. Try and keep up your relationship with the guy you like but maintain the relationship with him only as friends.

Thanks everyone!! but now she is wanting me to ask him why he won't go out with her!! And he said he didn't wanna go out with her! ugh.

Seems like you're having a hard time with this. I think what's best, is to be as honest as possible. The truth hurts, but it's better than to be taken on the wrong road with lies, now is it? If you're afraid of admitting to the guy that you like him (which is normal!) maybe you should at least talk to your friend about it.

xx

obviously this is none of my business and i don't know this guy at all .... but there a couple of things i noticed here that other people have written about yet.
he sort of flirted with you. then he kissed her. then he said he didn't want to be with her.
some people would say he's a player. other people would say he's confused about his feelings. it's up to you to judge which one it truly is.
if it's the first one ... i know this is very very hard and much easier said than done .... but try ask yourself if he's really the kind of guy you want to get involved with. if it's the second one then maybe he shouldn't really get involved with anyone right now ... you or your friend. whether he will or not is another question, but still ....
i could be completely wrong about everything of course and probably am and it's very hard to judge a situation you're so far removed from, but it's just another angle for you to conisder. i hope everything works out for the best in the end. :)
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Thanks totally-sugar... your advice is great,, he isn't a player, trust me, I've known him for AWHILE but i think you're right, he is just confused.. I wanna THANK EVERYONE WHO COMMENTED AND TRIE TO HELP ME OUT :/

Oh wow dude that's a really suckish problem...ok well first if i were you i would talk to my friend about it and see where her and this guy stand. If they both like each other as a bf/gf thing or just as friends. And maybe you should try to ask this guy if he likes you. But only if your friend is ok with it. and i'm sorry this is probably so confusing. Lol but i'm just tryin to help!
hope it all works out for you dude!

i think a guy that plays between friends isnt worth the pain ...
but i have been in the same situation ... && if he is not a player like you say and he is confused .. i think maybe ... you can talk with your friend ... and at least know what does she feel about him .. and maybe it will be good if u talk about your feelings too .. but i dont know haha i have problems too so im bad for this things haha .. men are stupid i lOve vampz haah just trying to helpp !

i need help too =( haha can i use ur idea about thizz pick ?!?! hehe

yea sure! of course you can!!

haha thnxx ! =]
&& finally what happened withh the guy & your friennd ?!
if its possible to know haha
what u did ?

Well I finally just let it go. I figured that it wasn't worth the chance of our friendship (my best friend, or the guy) to be ruined forever. So... since i stopped obsessing over the guy... I realized that there are some pretty decent guys in my school and I'm currently crushing on two very sweet, very kind guys that I'm thinking about asking one of them out..... (if this solution isn't what you were hoping it would be... then I'm sorry.. but this solution is what works the best.. BUT THANKS TO EVERYBODY WHO COMMENTED... I TOOK ALL OF THE SUGGESTIONS AND THOUGHT FOR A LONG TIME AND REALIZED WHAT I HAD TO DO..... THANKS AGAIN!!!!!!!)

I'm glad you worked out your problems, just curious though, why does this question close in three years?

No reason really... I just picked a random date

maybe you can ttry and talk to her and tell how u feel
if she s a ture friend she'd understand if not well
i sorta had the same thing done to me one of my friends by she didnt know
what i did was i was friendly and i waited and then they broke up but i never told her but that was sorta a mistake so just talk to her