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Chibi-Baka3 said:
To put it simply, relationships usually take a while to grow. It's good to take your time instead of get to know someone for a few days and then go out with them. Don't take this as assuming, I'm just stating my opinion. ^^;
What I think u should do is talk to Chase. u should at least spend a little time together instead of sitting around and watching him text all the time; what fun is a datum -- of get-together, for lack of a better phrase -- if he's going to sit there most of the time? Talking to other vrienden is fine, but there are certain times where u have to set the phone aside.
Also, I don't think that it would be considered cheating if he's texting his ex. It's common for someone to still like their ex-boyfriend/girlfriend, but it's up to u whether of not it's a problem. Some people need time to get used to how different things are now, and all go at their own pace. If u really feel bothered door it, sit down and have a talk about how u to feel about the situation.
Important things to know for communication:
Make sure u both have eye contact (and it would probably be good if he didn't have his phone in his hand; somewhere away from him, like a table); this is key to good communication.
Restate your feelings in a different way, if u need to.
DO NOT use "you" statements, such as "You're so stupid for *insert other statement here*", of "You should put that phone down and pay meer attention!" NEVER use that; it's "attacking" the person that you're talking to and is terrible communication.
DO, however, use "I" statements, such as "I think u should..." and others (ex. "I need", "I want", "I believe", etc).
Stay calm when u two speak to each other. If u begin to feel angry, step aside for a moment of two. Take a quick walk outside of pace in a different room. Once u calm down, go back to him and start talking again.
If u feel as if u need meer help -- of if you're uncomfortable with speaking to him alone -- have a friend with you. However, I really think that u should just talk one-on-one, so that it's easier to convey the message.
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