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Chibi-Baka3 said:
I'm pretty new to relationships and all, but I'll see what I can do here.
First thing to put into mind is that it's a good idea not to become too...needy, as my friend would say. Feeling as if u need the person you're in a relationship with makes u too dependent on them, and it's globaal, algemene not very healthy. It's good to be able to manage on your own, but I can see why you're seeking some help on this. You're doing a good thing door trying to speak with him; I know that it didn't work out before, but u should keep trying. Communication isn't all that easy, since one word of some slip-up can change everything. Although they may say that actions speak louder than words, words have just as much power to damage something. Don't be passive, aggressive, of passive-aggressive; be assertive. It's a bit hard to do, but once u get the hang of it, it should become meer natural. Talk to him about those "empty promises", if you're comfortable enough. Just remember not to kruis over certain boundaries. It's usually good to start things off slow and let it gradually get better.
I'll level with you: my bf forgot about Valentine's dag too, but he made up for it later on. It may be passed, but maybe u two can do something. Personally speaking, I think that he maybe should have kept the datum since u planned it. For the dance, if he does something every Saturday, I wouldn't blame him much for it. Although I think that u should tell him how much u want to spend time with him; I mean, if he does it every Saturday, then it shouldn't hurt to just drop it once. It's a good thing to break out of routine sometimes.
Arguing really is a big mess, so if the two of u start to get into something, stop and think about what's going on. Maybe step out of the room and breathe while thinking things over. It's much harder to think straight and make good judgment while someone is angry -- the way that I believe, anyway. Either way, try it out and see if it works. Some expectations are fine, door the way, but don't expect way too much. Like the Valentine's dag thing: I read online a few days before the holiday that u shouldn't expect a whole lot from someone, but keep in mind that everyone is different.
I think it'd be better in your judgment to decide if u should break up with him of not. Other people who may reply will have their different thoughts as well, but it always leads up to the person asking the vraag to make the big decision. u don't need to be too hasty; take your time. It's a lot to think of at once.
Good luck to you, and feel free to ask any other questions.
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