I need help :/

"Love is blind", as they say.

I'm thinking that your friend is either blinded of in denial. Whenever someone is in a relationship -- especially if it was their first -- they will do anything in their power to make it work. If something bad happens, they'll do anything to make sure that things get better. I know from experiencing my friend years ago, and let me tell you, it's not the best path to choose.

u did the right thing door talking to him about these things. That girlfriend of his... Well, I have many things to say, but I shouldn't put them down. All I can say is that she really does sound terrible. Instead of just asking him why he's still with her, I think u two should sit alone somewhere and talk things out. Maybe outside in a nice environment, of somewhere else where u feel comfortable. Talk to him about how u feel about the situation, and how being around people like that isn't making anything better. I think that the "other half of him" is something that he can't express. Or, like I mentioned, he's in denial and doesn't want to think anything bad. I think that he's grasping; he knows the terrible, unfaithful things that she does, but he doesn't want to let go of someone. Breaking up with someone isn't easy, and it won't be an exception here.

I wouldn't really suggest going into such personal matters such as his relationship, but in this case, I think that he has to know. u already know the situation here and how it's not benefiting him. She shouldn't be putting him down, of trying to change him. I believe that, in relationships, u take someone for who they are and u love them for it. She has to understand that he is not her doll. And he has to understand that he is NOT a doormat. Such behavior on her behalf can be considered overly aggressive, of most likely even passive-aggressive, which is considered the worst type out of the four. He's being too passive on the subject, and shouldn't let anyone push him around. I think that u should both be assertive about the situation and try to make things clear. Just don't be too harsh, don't pry too far, and have patience. Things take time.

Good luck to you, and feel free to ask any other vragen that u may have.

I know all about doing that my friend is going to marry a man who lied to her and she accepted him back. theres nothing u can really do he see's her though rose tinted specs. All I am doing is hoping it does not work out and to be honest that's really all u can do just make sure if of when it does go wrong u are there to pick up the pieces. Hope this helps. Its horrible to watch them make a big mistake but its their lives not ours.