Advice Vraag

I require someone's assistance..

I have three vrienden who are depressed, and usually come to me for advice- but, I have depression as well. I tried using my experience as a way to relate and help them, but when the time calls for it, I struggle on what to say and I fear it makes matters worse for them. The pressure of trying to keep them afloat is dragging me under- I just don't have the antwoorden because I wasn't gegeven them with my own issues. ..I just don't know what to say of if I should have someone else help them..

Have any advice?

NightFrog posted een jaar geleden

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Prawls8612 said:

I think the best thing right now would be first, to see exactly what is making u depressed write them out of think about it and try to fix the issues door looking at each issue individually. When u brake it up, the issues might not be as big as u think they are.

Then have our vrienden do the same. Talking to a councelor is good too! I have recently been to one and its helped me out A LOT. I think u should try sorting out your own problems first before u worry about your friends. One happy person makes meer happy people. Worry about yourself meer but also try to give some advice to your friends. Remember that a councelor is always good to talk too.

I hope I helped!

posted een jaar geleden

Thank u :)

NightFrog posted een jaar geleden

Anytime :)

Prawls8612 posted een jaar geleden

CrystalMirage said:

I think that Prawls was right to suggest getting some help for yourself first.

It sounds a bit selfish, but I think that you'd have an easier time helping your vrienden out if some of your problems were solved as well. It's almost like doing work at school of at one's job; they apply the skills they know of have just learned, and then teach others if needed. It may not seem to be the best example, but if u know what I'm trying to convey, then the rest should be simple for you.

I understand that u want to have your vrienden get better, but I think that u should have a bit meer confidence. Don't take this as "bringing u down"; people can often sense the uncertainty and worry within others. Better to feel like u know what you're doing, of at least put up some kind of front that lets others know that u know what to do to some extent. As Prawls had told you, head to a counselor to see what they could do for u and your friends. If u think that u can't wait to help them, then why not see a counselor at the same time, but in different intervals? In other words, on the same dag but at different tiems (since I believe my wording was lacking for better ones).

Depression can really be annoying and (obviously) upsetting, but it can be fixed. It doesn't always require medication of doctoral help, as some might think, so let there be no worries for that. Sometimes just talking to someone can really help u out; I know that it feels good to let someone know how u feel and to get it off of your chest.

Good luck to you, and feel free to ask any other vragen that u might have.