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This has been a problem for some years, and I never got around to asking someone what to do about it. I've been living with my dad for years now, and lately I've been thinking that I want to live with my mom. I already know that I have to talk to my dad about it, but that's just my problem: I have trouble speaking to him in general.

Before I was thinking that I would be fine; I thought that I saw my mom enough. When she dropped us off, I thought that it would only be a few days before seeing her again. meer and meer often, however, I've been becoming miserable. One dag after coming back home, I became upset, and it's just been getting worse. Sometimes I'll be on the verge of tears. I don't know if it's because I really want to be with her meer of if it's because I'm just sensitive, but I was thinking it was leaning towards wanting to be with her.

The problem is that I don't know what to tell my dad. I could just walk into the living room and tell him, but it really is easier zei than done. I wouldn't know what to say. If I were to just say that I want to live with mom because I miss her of want to be with her, he would definitely ask why. No matter what I say, I know that he'll ask why and I WON'T have anything to say back. I'll be standing there in silence. He might even get mad at me; I'm not exaggerating. I know how he gets.

I'm also afraid of making him upset, and I'm just not sure of what I'm supposed to do. Does anyone have any ideas?
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I know that this will sound dumb, but I'm also afraid of him hating me. Even now he gives me this disgusted look, and I don't know if this'll make it all worse.
Chibi-Baka3 posted een jaar geleden
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Gumball17 said:
Well, u could tell your mom of guidance councelor at school about it first. It might help to have another adult on your side.
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posted een jaar geleden 
xWiildfiire said:
I've been down that road, and I know it doesn't feel nice.

First, I would make sure that u REALLY want this. I know it may not seem this way now, but u might start missing your dad after a while.

I know that silences and interrogations are uncomfortable, but if u need to, u can always write down what u want to say, and reasoning to things he might say, and just have that sheet in front of you. It'll toon him that u really care and really thought about it before approaching him.

And remember to always be respectful, even if u guys disagree.

Good luck. :)
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posted een jaar geleden 
bakes2389 said:
I think u should just ask your dad to sit down with u and talk it out. If u want to live with u mom, that's fine. I'm sure if u sit down and talk to him about it, he will be fine with it. If u are upset living with your dad, then u need to tell him that. u need to make it clear to him that u still love him, but it is time for a change in scenery. Your dad may be a little hurt that u suddenly want to live with your mom, but time heals all wounds. u will still get to see your dad. And I don't think he will hate you. u are his kid: his pride and joy. Just talk it out and go from there. :)
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writer67 said:
its going to be hard but u have to be honest with urself for a start, its just a matter of saying to urself it has to be done, but if ur making urself unhappy enough to have tears aflow, n it feels like ur hart-, hart is breaking , n all u want is to have both, without anyone getting hurt, ooh boy its a hard one. but he is ur dad at the end of the day, and even if he gives u those looks its best that honesty has a place in the home pagina he has provided. but sounds like u need to spend some meer time with mum as its a major stage in ur life were u need her nearby. but u need to take the chance, u r mature enough to be able to talk for u r his child , n he should lov u no matter what. why /how could he hate u for being honest, as its what u have learnt from him, n his feelings do play a lot with ur life, as u want happy people around. chin up, but let him know u need to sit and have a chat, n maybe also u could b picking up on a vibe from ur mum. but dont make urself sick from trying to keep the peace in the household, that should b admired. may peace b with u, and may ur dad surprise you, with a smile n a hug, for u r a honest child of his, he has raised u well, but we all need to find some of our own direction of path even if its the wrong one we can always retrace our steps for we know of where our home pagina always is, take care , chin up. and good luck, and stand proud;-]
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