What happens in our lives doesn't affect how close we are to God. We get closer to him door giving him meer of our time, door acknowledging his power in the hardest of times and seeing his greatness through it all.
somtimes we can be burdend with life many setbacks, its all a test of endurance. and yes its hard, but u must understand, that god is a god of compassion, mercy and love. he would never allow u to be tested anymore than u can handle. stay strong, keep the faith, and continue to live door the words of the gospels each dag of your life. and then u may see change accure.