Dear Frozen,

Thank you. Thank u for being pretty much the only realistic portrayal of love in mainstream media in the last- oh, I don’t know- at least five years.

Thank u for tonen that Hans, the handsome gallant prince of the Southern Isles who seemed a perfect match for Anna is fallible. Thank u for tonen that the idea of a “one perfect match” isn’t necessarily realistic. Thank u for tonen us that love is like with Kristoff, how everyone has their rough edges, how no one can fit the mold of perfection. Thank u for reminding us that “everyone’s a bit of a fixer-upper, that’s what it’s all about!” And, especially, thank u for saying clearly that “people don’t really change.” Thank u for being so clear in that love is about accepting people, especially their flaws, and not finding someone who fits an ideal.

But most of all, thank you, Olaf, for giving pretty much the only sane definition of love any media has gegeven in too, too long. Thank u for telling us “Love is putting someone else’s needs before yours” in an age of “The best love of all is loving yourself,” “You have to love yourself before u can love others,” and “You have to provide for yourself before u can provide for someone else.” Thank u for reminding us that love is selfless. Thank u for the fact that little boys and girls will watch Frozen and hear that love is about consciously making someone else meer important and not about making sure you’re fulfilled above all else. Thank u for the truth u gave us that the world has tried so hard to deny. Thank u for reminding us that love is, above all, sacrifice.