Why does saying ((calm down)) make an angry person meer angry?

In my opinion, because they just want u to calm down and aren't willing to talk with u about it.
At least that's how I feel.
*shrugs*

Because they don't want to be told what to do.

well, when my mom tells me to calm down, i calm down.

Because how /dare/ u imply that my anger means that I'm not in complete control.

Whenever I get angry at my man, he just tells me he loves me and makes me food until I calm down.

Because rebel. Rebel is a part of human nature.