ok i still get confused at this, but does Bella love Jacob. because if she does then she doesn't really love Edward with all her hart-, hart does she?

It´s unsure. I think after Edward leaves and Bella thought he would never come back she had in anytime began to thought about that she had to face the future. She fell in love with Jacob but when Edward cames back she was helpless. She didn´t fell in love with Jacob when she thought there was a chance that she´ll get Edward back. I see it in that way: She loved Edward with her whole heart. He leaves. Then she fell in love when she thought she could never see Edward again. He came back. Her feelings struggled and she lost her whole hart-, hart again on Edward. Her feelings for Jacob were weaker. Because her hart-, hart always belonged to Ed :)

ok, it's really confusing!! in fact, i believe she loves jacob, but her big, true love is obviously EDWARD!!!!!!!!!!!

I fully believe that she never really loved Jacob. He spent all of Eclipse emotionally blackmailing her into believing that she did, but as she says in New Moon "I wish Jacob was my brother so I could have a claim on him." He was her best friend though, that much is true. But what Bella and Jacob didn't realize is that there were other forces drawing them together, namely Renesmee. As soon as she is born all of their feelings toward each other are gone. It's like she was always a part of Bella and Jacob was in love with that part of her.

I believe she loved Jacob, but not all love is the same.

She had a familial love for Jacob. He was like a part of her family. She didn't have desires to touch him and kiss him like she did Edward. She ony wanted him to be present in her life.

She had a romantic love for Edward.

Loving your family doesn't mean u love your romantic interest any less.

What she says in Eclipse:

'Jacob was right. He’d been right all along. He was meer than just my friend. That’s why it was so impossible to tell him goodbye — because I was in love with him. Too.'

Of course it's subjective but yes, Bella has zei she was in love with him. And not as in a brotherly love as she kissed him.